Marriage & Couples Counselling

Many couples feel disillusioned by the loss of magic that is present in the early days of a relationship and wish to find that spark again. Others are aware that their busy lives get in the way of their relationship, leaving them feeling disconnected and needing some one on one time to reconnect with each other away from distraction.

There are also couples trying desperately to save their marriage or long term relationship; to avoid separation or divorce and the break up of a family. Many of these couples attend therapy as a way to better understand themselves and their spouses; to learn how they have changed over the years and become aware of how the relationship has changed.

Sexuality & LGBTQI+

Wellmind Psychology welcomes all individuals from the lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, transgender, queer community, whatever your identity or stage of the journey you are on.

Couples in same sex relationships require a counsellor or therapist with an understanding of and respect for the issues gay couples face at both individual and societal levels.  This does not necessarily mean the counsellor needs to be gay but that the counsellor is sympathetic to the different dynamics of same sex couples and the various issues they may face.

Couples counselling is a great way to not only touch base with each other but also with ourselves. Often we as individuals get carried away with the hustle and bustle of daily routines, family and friends and work, that we lose contact with each other. This loss of contact can result in arguments, feelings of rejection or loss, loneliness and/or fear that the relationship may be coming to an end. Communication can begin to break down and it may be hard to know how our partners are feeling or what their current needs are. Counselling or therapy can assist in developing new communication skills, reacquainting ourselves with each other and to gain a deeper understanding of our own feelings, needs and wants.

Here are some things you may gain from couples therapy:

 New communication skills. Often we develop destructive patterns of relating that trigger undesirable responses in ourselves and in others. During couples therapy you will learn new communication skills that help break these destructive patterns and make positive changes in your relationship.

Understanding needs and wants; it is all about reciprocation. Over time we learn to cope by suppressing our needs and wants for the sake of the relationship, and for some peace and quiet. This breakdown in communication is often the start of the breakdown in the relationship. Therapy will help you identify your own needs and wants from the relationship and help you develop the ability to be open about asking them be fulfilled. You will also learn to be open and responsive to your partner’s needs and wants and help them fulfil those.

Developing a deeper sense of yourself and your partner. This is an essential part of reclaiming trust, intimacy and passion in a relationship. You will learn many skills, including active listening that can help foster trust and return passion and intimacy into your relationship.

Know yourself and know your partner. Your personality differences are part of what makes your relationship meaningful. Becoming aware of and understanding how your different personalities may lead to conflict and how as a couple you can work on overcoming such conflicts.

Fostering intimacy and sexual connection. You will learn how to identify and remove blocks to intimacy and sexual connection. Many participants find the quiet time together and the open communication can itself help bring back the intimacy and spark sexual connection.

If you and/or your partner feel you would like to talk to someone about your relationship please contact us.